Being a woman on the internet aka the day I spent my birthday tracking down a sexual predator UPDATED

This is part one, read part two and part three here.

The disturbing reality of being a woman on the internet is the almost casual sexual aggressions we’re subjected to on a regular basis.  I don’t remember the last time I went an entire week without receiving an unsolicited photo of male genitals.

I deal with this onslaught of unsolicited penis by re-posting their willy-selfies after decorating the submitted images to my liking –  an eel partying at a tiki bar, butterfly resting on a branch and brown mouse are my latest works of art – to my public Instagram account (@rachelgeebee).

Ironically these men often don’t like me reducing their crown jewels to a cute rodent or marine creature – they suddenly become shy and they report my postings.   The images are then removed by Instagram.  Oh the irony that Instagram allow men to send these images with no recourse, and then allow those same men to report my edited images as offensive when I re-post and tag them.

Over the last three years of fashion blogging, I have been able to group these genital-sharers into the following:

  • Type 1: Older males, generally 40+, excited by the new technology that allows them to follow through on their sexual offender-esque urges without consequence, taking a sneaky pants-less selfie with smug self-satisfaction and who disappear once embarrassed by my re-posting of their messages, never to return.
  • Type 2: Younger boys, snapping several photos of their pride and joy from as many angles as possible with a snigger, thinking no one has ever dared do anything like this before, oh the thrill of it all, this consequence free low-level sexual offending. Don’t tend to mind when I re-post their images, but tend not to stick around and will eventually block me.

Both type 1 and 2 are ignorant to what it means to a woman to be subjected to unwanted sexual attention.  They don’t recognise their behaviour as disturbing; they believe women should be pleased they attracted attention, and this is more intensely true because I happen to be plus size.

I don’t believe it is my job to educate these men on how wildly offensive that concept is.  I highlight their behaviour, shame them, and walk away.

Recently I have found myself unwillingly introduced to a third category of over-sharer – a growing group of mostly under 22yr old men who submit long, descriptive scenarios of what they would like to do to me, most often captioned along side a photo of me, and then predictably a photo of their wang.   When I block them, or name and shame them, they go on to create new accounts and come back, taunting me that there is no escape from their gauntlet of dick.  Depending on my mood at the time, I find their cries for my attention pathetic and desperate, sometimes even slightly amusing but always a little scary.

Scary because of what their online personas reveal about their true nature, scary for the women who know these men in real life and scary because I wonder whether I have men in my life who see me as sexual object and who harbour secret, sexually violent fantasies toward women,  simply because they are women.

Something I didn’t expect to experience was the shame associated with being on the receiving end of unwanted explicit sexual attention, I felt it manifest itself when I realised I felt uncomfortable sharing these messages with my close friends and family on Facebook – but not my largely unknown Instagram following.   I was ashamed to show people I work with, my parents, my best friends – male and female – that someone had reduced me to less than human, to an object.  I address my own feelings of shame by embarrassing those men on Instagram, exposing their unwanted behaviour in public, and leave it there.

This week I was forced to reassess my position and why I was ashamed of the messages I was receiving.   I began a photo album on Facebook called “Being a woman on the internet” and uploaded the latest offensive messages I had received, a small step towards not being ashamed of what a small number of men believe is acceptable behaviour.

It started with this lovely imagery:

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I blocked him. Then another account messaged me, cropped out is a photo of an erect penis, of course.

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I blocked him. And another account.

 

I blocked him. And another account  – now posting my images with the caption “I need something big in my mouth”

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I blocked him. And then the same account from above began to impersonate me using a photo taken from my Instagram and part of my bio:

Then another account.  This charming young man then shared that he was posting my images with sexually explicit captions – giving my images a voice that matched the fantasy in his head, one where I was asking for sexual attention, asking for sex from men, attempting to slut shame me for posting a photo in a bikini.

The caption reads “Big Titty chick looking for some good dick ps I’m taking big gulps”

At this stage the harassment had spanned five days, and I had reached out for support from other women online who had recently shared they also had been subjected to similarly explicit and unrelenting messages from someone on Instagram. After a couple of these conversations, I began to connect the dots and was certain I knew who the person harassing me was. A stranger, not someone I had ever met or interacted with, just a stranger who saw me as someone less-than that he could target without consequence, and enjoyed the chase and attempted to hold power over me when I fought back.

When he messaged me again, I told him I knew his name – Kalim – I told him I knew that he attended Veritas Christian School in Lawrence, Kansas.  My messages were seen and the Instagram account quickly deleted.  I emailed the school using an email I found on their website and asked for someone to make contact with me about Kalim.

I found Kalim on Facebook, his numerous photos were public, so I liked each one.  I put up a status on my Facebook and explained who Kalim was and asked my friends to visit his profile and like his photos, no comments, just like them and remind Kalim how small the internet is.  They did.  Kalim blocked me on Facebook.

I found Kalim’s girlfriend, I messaged her on Facebook and said she may like to check her boyfriend’s phone.    I sent her the messages and photos Kalim had sent me.   She pleaded with me not to write this post.  Not to ruin Kalim’s life, he would lose his scholarship, and not graduate she said.  The consequences of what I was doing and having contacted the school, was enough she said.

I sent a Facebook message to a female relative of Kalim’s – I suspect his Mother – and advised her to look at Kalim’s phone.

I tagged the school in the explicit messages Kalim had sent me on Instagram – @Verisaathletics public account featured a photo of Kalim smiling with the local news team and the caption “Way to go Kalim!”.    I shared this with my followers.  My followers then also commented on the @Verisaathletics Instagram account.  The school turned their Instagram account to private.

I messaged Kalim’s personal Instagram account and told him I was going to write this post.  He replied “I don’t even know who you are”.  Kalim changed his username several times in the space of an hour, I kept up, and changed my tags in my photos to reflect those changes, holding him accountable for the messages he sent.  Not allowing him to hide from what he had said to me.

Kalim messaged me directly apologising for upsetting me, pleading with me to drop it, praying to God for forgiveness, then he said “I didn’t even say anything bad, just things you didn’t want to hear”

I told him how offensive that in the midst of his life apparently being over, his life ruined, he had the audacity to try and convince me I should be flattered by what he thought about me, that he owed me and at least one other woman an apology and I expected to see one online.  He stalled and I told him I would give him until the morning to make a public apology, ideally on his personal Instagram account.

In the meantime, an email purporting to be from Veritas Christian School arrived in my personal inbox – sent from a Gmail account.  I questioned its authenticity and was advised to google the sender’s name to confirm his identity.  Yes, dear readers, when someone approaches me as a victim of sexual harassment, I also put the onus on them to confirm I am who I say I am.   The contact asked me to please stop using social media to contact them/talk about my issue with Kalim as I had their attention now.  Well thank goodness, all a girl was after was a little attention.

Veritas, here is a protip:  I was unlikely to agree to that on a good day, nevermind on a day where your student has been sexually harassing me and you wanted to address it by Gmail.

I responded and said I required official communication from the school, from a official school email, to recognise the seriousness of Kalim’s behaviour.  I received no response for several hours, until I tagged the school Instagram account in my latest update on the issue.   Micah, Director of Facilities, Vertias Christian School emailed me a one-liner from a @veritaschristianschool.org email address letting me know this was his school email address and his phone number to call him.  When I did call, Micah began by thanking me for alerting the school about Kalim’s conduct, from the bottom of his heart.

And he had provided Kalim’s family with my personal contact details when the school and the family had met today.   He advised me that he didn’t know what it’s like in New Zealand, but here in the USA we have no authority over Kalim as there was no proof he did these things during school time.   Wait a minute.  I have alerted you to the disturbing behaviour of one of your students, a 19 yr old man, engaging in scary, threatening behaviour specifically toward women and you have no responsibility to him, or other students? – this is where your responsibility ends?

Micah responded and said that the only action he was willing to share with me, was that they had met with the family and asked me if I wanted the local law enforcement’s contact information. I told him I could find that online myself. I advised him I would be using my small online platform to talk about Kalim and the school.

So now I am waiting to maybe be contacted by the family of a 19yr old who has been sexually harassing me online, who has my full name, my personal email, because Veritas Christian School decided to provide those to him without running that by me first.  Go team!

Micah mentioned that someone else had contacted the school about Kalim’s online behaviour – Micah assumed it was my husband but it was not, this is concerning as it confirms I am not the only victim, and that the school does not appear to recognise that there is a pattern to Kalim’s behaviour.  Perhaps Kalim can attend a Sexual Offenders course and Micah and the rest of the Veritas board can attend a course on how to address the concerns of victims appropriately.

This morning Kalim posted an anonymous apology under yet another Instagram account, admitting very little, and tagging myself and one other in it. And it wasn’t good enough.

So here is my post about Kalim, a 19yr old man who I believe thoughtfully and methodically stalked and harassed four women (that I know of, undoubtedly there are more of us) across multiple social network platforms, who sent numerous photos of his genitals to these women, who sent them explicit messages, who used their photos to try to shame and punish them for not accepting his unwanted attention.  Kalim who visited women’s blogs so he could merge their photos with objectionable pornographic images to taunt them with.  Kalim who wants to attend University and play college basketball, and who has proven to harbour dangerous and misogynistic opinions of women.

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To those who know Kalim – don’t minimise Kalim’s behaviour – I believe Kalim didn’t get caught fooling around, playing a joke online, he dedicated time and energy to objectifying and scaring women.   This is who he is, this is what he has been investing his time and energy doing when sitting around using his phone.  Laying on the couch using Facebook? No, sexually harassing women. Chatting to his girlfriend online? No, sending women pictures of his genitals and saying they can run but can’t hide from him.

This is rape culture and Kalim is in the thick of it.  Get him some help.

 

19 DEC: UPDATE

Since posting this account of my experience with Kalim and Veritas Christian School I have been able to confirm that the school representative I spoke to Micah Stegall is or was a Lawrence Police Officer.  Kalim also played basketball for Veritas Christian School yesterday.   I am incredibly disappointed in Veritas Christian School, actually disappointed doesn’t even begin to describe how I feel.  I feel sick that an institution claiming to hold Christian values, values its sporting achievements over the safety of students.

If you’d like to contact the school directly please email their athletics programme director – Brett Temple: btemple@veritaschristianschool.org

Or perhaps comment on last night’s game here: http://www2.ljworld.com/news/2015/dec/19/veritas-picks-pair-victories/

 

Read part two and part three here

 

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  • Amber Sarah

    I am so proud of you for this blog post, and for empowering yourself and, through this post, other women who suffer from this kind of behavior daily. You are my hero!

  • I wish more people did what you did. This is no joke. Rape culture is real and people need to be held accountable for their actions online. Bless you!

    • The main issue is fear. A lot of victims are very young women who wont speak up add they think it’s the way of the world. Its sad but with strong women standing up saying its not bloody ok then things will hopefully get a little better. Only on Friday. .on the last train of the night a man decided he had the right to touch my shoulder and squeeze.. he was dumbfounded when i whipped around and threatened to break his nose. If he had done this to a teen.. she would be frightened. Hell i was frightened but i have 43 years under my belt and 27 in the public service. I have been touched, raoed, abused, threatned and even strangled by members of the public who think its ok to treat women this way. When i told this guy i would break his nose.. i was not kidding.
      I am extremely disturbed bu this story mostly because he may be a police officer and the school supports him and hides hoping it will go away. This is the real issue. Don’t train women how not to be raped. Teach boys that women are humans who are to be teated with respect.

      Ok.. off my soap box. ..

  • I am so sorry you went through this but so glad you took a stand. I’ve never been able to do this for this essay circumstance but I once tracked down a man’s employer after he abused me numerous times on facebook and had him fired. I also once found the mother of a man who abused me online and sent her screenshots of his abuse… I often do the same to wives and girlfriends of men who contact me on dating websites. More often than not I’m called a bitch but I don’t care. I refuse to stand got being abused or treated badly. Not exactly like your situation but similar and I’m glad I’m not the only person taking a stand xx

  • I am so proud of you for not backing down. What a disgusting situation, and absolutely appalling that the school a) isn’t going to do anything and b) gave out your details. I stand by you virtual hand in hand. Came here through a link from Meagan Kerr’s Facebook page. Much love xx

  • So glad you decided to post this. Pervs have been getting away with stalking & intimidation for too long. I hope any future employers see this post when they google him and realize what a huge risk employing a sexual predator is.

    Also, that school is fucking ridiculous! I hope the family email you so that you can send them the screenshots of what their son is doing!

  • Jess Butson

    I cannot believe what i have just read, in fact ive had to read it 3 times and still i am sitting here stunned.

    The schools attitude and response is astonishing.

    I am in awe of your strength and tenacity to nail down this creeper who hides behind god and prayer. It is absolutely terrifying that this young adult isnt getting help. His thoughts and actions are scary for all females. He is a sexual predator plain and simple.

    I will be posting this story for many reasons;
    1) to show support for what you are doing
    2) so that this Kalim guy learns that every action has a consiquence
    3) so that the school will be compelled to act on such things

    Kia kaha xxx Jess (found this via Meagan Kerr’s FB account)

  • Vanessa

    Google Micah’s full name. A man by that name is a serving police officer in the Lawrence, Texas police department. There may be are two men of that name in Lawrence, Texas, but somehow I doubt it. You may want to take this up with his superiors; I would be very concerned about a serving police officer who not only doesn’t take threats and sexual harassment seriously, but reveals the contact details of a complainant to the harasser,

    • Hi Vanessa
      This is Lawrence Kansas so not the same Micah I don’t think, thank you though!

      • Vanessa

        D’oh – I’m an idiot who wrote Texas when she meant Kansas! Micah is a serving police officer in Lawrence Kansas, not Texas. Same town. If it’s the same guy it’s a conflict of interest at the very least.

        • Wow. I dont even know what to say, I think you’re correct.
          I will have a look into it this morning and update this post to reflect that information.

  • Brad Sparks

    Thanks you for posting this. People think that fake accounts allow them to do whatever they want. People should have to put our names on their online actions. Not that any of us are perfect, but at least people would be accountable.

  • I’m so sorry you had to go through this, and I’m so glad you talked about it. I would urge any man to read this to get an understanding of what it’s like to be a woman in the public eye.

    My feelings on this subject are strong and usually require the use of multiple expletives as it makes me so f@@king angry. Some men reading your article might think ‘It’s just one man’ but ask any woman how many such men she’s experienced in her lifetime. Women suffer at the hands of men like Kalim every day and it’s never ok. I’m going to share this post everywhere.

  • Thank you for being strong and posting this. Too many men think what they do on line has no real life concequences and this will hopefully be a wake up call. Though.without support from schools i doubt this will stop.

  • Miss

    Important post. Thanks and keep up the great work.

  • Heather Witherden

    This is exactly the same culture that has professional athletes being paid millions while acting like absolute shitheads in daily life.

  • sleepydumpling

    Oh I am LOVING all these women holding men accountable for their disgusting actions. You’re doing great work, I am sorry you had to be put into the position to have to do it though.

  • R.E.S.

    It looks like the LJWorld website has disabled comments on that particular article, FYI. Very disappointing.

    • Yes they have – the school has also taken down it’s Facebook page. They do have a twitter account though – @The3agleNest

  • TychaBrahe

    Oh, sister, believe me, in America these ARE Christian values.

  • What you are going through is horrible but thank you for sharing this and letting others know they are not alone. This shows others that others don’t have to back down or to suffer in silence. It sounds like these men are obsessed in doing something that they know is wrong. He has spent a lot of time torturing you (and others). This is not a one time accident, he sounds like a very sick and twisted mind. Would he have apologised if you hadn’t voiced your concerns? Why is the school, parents and girlfriend supporting rape culture? Is it because he is their golden ticket? What message does that send to young men? I’m disappointed that people around him seem to think this is all OK. These are not the leaders of our future. I bet there are 100 people more worthy of a scholarship than this man. If he loses his shot at a scholarship because of his disgusting behaviour, maybe he should have considered his actions. You’ve been forced to consider his actions.

  • So proud of you for speaking out about this Rachel, I know it’s not ever an easy decision to make but the more that we do talk about rape culture the better. It’s abhorrent that the school isn’t taking this seriously – as a parent I’d be concerned about sending my child to a school that excuses this kind of behaviour, what kind of moral values does that teach at a Christian school, not to mention the lack of safety provided for it’s female students. This young man is a predator who needs to face up to his actions and get help.

  • HarmanNZ

    What an absolutely horrendous thing to happen to anyone. The fact that the school won’t take any responsibility magnifies the issue here. Thanks for sharing this message and your experience. Hopefully the school have decided to take the matter much more seriously now and the young man concerned walkers up to the fact that his behaviour comes from and belongs in the gutter.

  • HagmanNZ

    The Twitter account has been deactivated as well now. I started writing a very forceful email to the address as listed above but will refrain until you update us with any new developments. My feeling is the school have gone underground and are hoping the matter will die down over the Christmas break.

    I would recommend contacting the educational authorities as well and making a complaint through them. External bodies, I would like to think, would be very interested in investigating this morons behaviour.

    • Thanks for letting me know – something a bit short sighted about being online to block me, de-activate Facebook and Twitter, and not have one single person from the school reach out and say “Hey, we’ve heard you, we’re looking into this, please leave it with us”.

      Please continue with your email. I have had some people reach out with law enforcement contacts that are not the Lawrence PD (as Micah seems to have a conflict of interest, and I have no faith in a fair and thorough investigation from the Lawrence PD as a result of our conversation). On Monday US time I am calling a division of the Kansas City Police – and as this crosses state and international boundaries, I also as of today have a contact with the FBI. The internet is a beautiful beautiful thing sometimes.

      • Wow. Go you! I am thrilled to read that the FBI have made contact. If even one predator get his comeuppance. .its one less for women to be threatened by.
        Much love hun. Xoxo

  • Hollie B

    This is disgusting and you have my support on this. I’ve tried to comment everywhere but it seems to have locked off all comments!!!! X

  • Davy Tolmie

    A twitter friend is always going on about the pics sent to her, well done Rachel, not all men are arsholes, have sent a wee tweet to @Veritas_Bball

  • Kristina

    So glad you are taking a stand. Keep up the good work! It’s not just Kalim that needs to learn about rape culture, it’s Micah and the school and the girlfriend (!) too. All complicit in this disgustingness.

    The more this is brought to light the more we can change the culture.

  • Stan L

    As a friend of the family I am sorry to hear this happened to you but on the other hand have some concerns.. First in no way what happened right but you also don’t know all the fact I know personally some of your accusations are incorrect. Second, with that being said how can you post and entire blog about someone using their full name, school, administrators, location etc. I think you’d be thrilled to know some of what you’re say is not actually true and due to a school not contacting you further during a holiday and you want to bombard them with email and hate comments, I don’t blame them. If the schools not contacting you it’s either because they can see how somewhat of an attention getter you are and some people like that, not trying to put you down. Third, through all of this you have gone through such great lengths to find the person who was saying things to you on the internet that when you found out who one person was you put full blame and responsibility on them. This kid Is a good kid, smart, athletic, has a huge heart and that may be as well as to why no one has tried to contact you further, regardless of part he had in all this people make mistakes and everyone knows that. Christians know God forgive all you just have to repent and I know him as well as faculty and family are doing nothing but praying right now. I heard you contacted his girlfriend and send her everything you knew/thought he did. Well she’s a minor so you sending her multiple genital pictures of what you considered to be this boy is a felony.. Which I heard is not? You cannot do that, you would now be registered as a sex offender in the United States of America, as well as Libel for posting things you think are true that are assumptions from what you’ve thrown together in your head: just trying to put all this blame on someone so you can feel satisfied and at peace with yourself. I don’t know how long this had been going on 2 or 3 days? But you post something like this about someone not knowing if you even know the whole truth and that can be devistating for a whole life. Forget the scholarships and everything else you’re talking about, I heard he had conceplated contemplated suicide because of this post… That’s a shame a life lost all for you to get some more blog attention… I hope to god he doesn’t because he a very special kid. I know he’s strong enough to get through this but even when he gets older and say his children see, or he wants to get a good job to support his family, they’re going to read this and believe it even though a lot of these statements aren’t true. Either way you’re losing a life by dead or by excommunication all for a blog. Now do not get me wrong I feel so bad for you and what you’ve indured no one should have to go though that but I also know he would not snoop to all Those horrible things, he might have had a hand in something but alit of these accusations are ludicrous. I even saw on your page 9 out of your last twelve post were about him, you’ve put up personal info about his whole life, contacted everyone you could, and made this blog. They think you’re crazy.. I’m just going to tell you some of the things are considered stalker is hand the family is actually scared to contact you in fear of what you’ll say or do after the fact. You’re like the paparazzi everything you find out its in a blog or and insta 10 minutes later.. No one wants to deal with that. I blog from time to time as well and if I put you on it full name husbands name works name and told my side of the story how you mad false accusations about someone who weren’t all true, send nudes to a minor, basically stalked family friends and faculty of this boy and gave out personal information of that which could start a mob or mob mentality wouldn’t look so good on you would it? Again I’m sorry what happened to you but I don’t think think this blog should have been made in focus of one person and I think the family or school might talk to you if you took it down. No one wants to comply with someone who’s trying to tarnish their reputation. Have a blessed day -StanAs a friend of the family I am sorry to hear this happened to you but on the other hand have some concerns.. First in no way what happened right but you also don’t know all the fact I know personally some of your accusations are incorrect. Second, with that being said how can you post and entire blog about someone using their full name, school, administrators, location etc. I think you’d be thrilled to know some of what you’re say is not actually true and due to a school not contacting you further during a holiday and you want to bombard them with email and hate comments, I don’t blame them. If the schools not contacting you it’s either because they can see how somewhat of an attention getter you are and some people like that, not trying to put you down. Third, through all of this you have gone through such great lengths to find the person who was saying things to you on the internet that when you found out who one person was you put full blame and responsibility on them. This kid Is a good kid, smart, athletic, has a huge heart and that may be as well as to why no one has tried to contact you further, regardless of part he had in all this people make mistakes and everyone knows that. Christians know God forgive all you just have to repent and I know him as well as faculty and family are doing nothing but praying right now. I heard you contacted his girlfriend and send her everything you knew/thought he did. Well she’s a minor so you sending her multiple genital pictures of what you considered to be this boy is a felony.. You cannot do that, you would now be registered as a sex offender in the United States of America, as well as Libel for posting things you think are true that are assumptions from what you’ve thrown together in your head: just trying to put all this blame on someone so you can feel satisfied and at piece with yourself. I don’t know how long this had been going on 2 or 3 days? But you post something like this about someone not knowing if you even know the whole truth and that can be devistating for a whole life. Forget the scholarships and everything else you’re talking about, I heard he had conceplated contemplated suicide because of this post… That’s a shame a life lost all for you to get some more blog attention… I hope to god he doesn’t because he a very special kid. I know he’s strong enough to get through this but even when he gets older and say his children see, or he wants to get a good job to support his family, they’re going to read this and believe it even though a lot of these statements aren’t true. Either way you’re losing a life by dead or by excommunication all for a blog. Now do not get me wrong I feel so bad for you and what you’ve indured no one should have to go though that but I also know he would not snoop to all Those horrible things, he might have had a hand in something but alit of these accusations are ludicrous. I even saw on your page 9 out of your last twelve post were about him, you’ve put up personal info about his whole life, contacted everyone you could, and made this blog. They think you’re crazy.. I’m just going to tell you some of the things are considered stalker is hand the family is actually scared to contact you in fear of what you’ll say or do after the fact. You’re like the paparazzi everything you find out its in a blog or and insta 10 minutes later.. No one wants to deal with that. Again I’m sorry what happened to you but I don’t think think this blog should have been made in focus of one person and I think the family or school might talk to you if you took it down. No one wants to comply with someone who’s trying to tarnish their reputation. Have a blessed day -StanAs a friend of the family I am sorry to hear this happened to you but on the other hand have some concerns.. First in no way what happened right but you also don’t know all the fact I know personally some of your accusations are incorrect. Second, with that being said how can you post and entire blog about someone using their full name, school, administrators, location etc. I think you’d be thrilled to know some of what you’re say is not actually true and due to a school not contacting you further during a holiday and you want to bombard them with email and hate comments, I don’t blame them. If the schools not contacting you it’s either because they can see how somewhat of an attention getter you are and some people like that, not trying to put you down. Third, through all of this you have gone through such great lengths to find the person who was saying things to you on the internet that when you found out who one person was you put full blame and responsibility on them. This kid Is a good kid, smart, athletic, has a huge heart and that may be as well as to why no one has tried to contact you further, regardless of part he had in all this people make mistakes and everyone knows that. Christians know God forgive all you just have to repent and I know him as well as faculty and family are doing nothing but praying right now. I heard you contacted his girlfriend and send her everything you knew/thought he did. Well she’s a minor so you sending her multiple genital pictures of what you considered to be this boy is a felony.. You cannot do that, you would now be registered as a sex offender in the United States of America, as well as Libel for posting things you think are true that are assumptions from what you’ve thrown together in your head: just trying to put all this blame on someone so you can feel satisfied and at piece with yourself. I don’t know how long this had been going on 2 or 3 days? But you post something like this about someone not knowing if you even know the whole truth and that can be devistating for a whole life. Forget the scholarships and everything else you’re talking about, I heard he had conceplated contemplated suicide because of this post… That’s a shame a life lost all for you to get some more blog attention… I hope to god he doesn’t because he a very special kid. I know he’s strong enough to get through this but even when he gets older and say his children see, or he wants to get a good job to support his family, they’re going to read this and believe it even though a lot of these statements aren’t true. Either way you’re losing a life by dead or by excommunication all for a blog. Now do not get me wrong I feel so bad for you and what you’ve indured no one should have to go though that but I also know he would not snoop to all Those horrible things, he might have had a hand in something but alit of these accusations are ludicrous. I even saw on your page 9 out of your last twelve post were about him, you’ve put up personal info about his whole life, contacted everyone you could, and made this blog. They think you’re crazy.. I’m just going to tell you some of the things are considered stalker is hand the family is actually scared to contact you in fear of what you’ll say or do after the fact. You’re like the paparazzi everything you find out its in a blog or and insta 10 minutes later.. No one wants to deal with that. Again I’m sorry what happened to you but I don’t think think this blog should have been made in focus of one person and I think the family or school might talk to you if you took it down. No one wants to comply with someone who’s trying to tarnish their reputation. Have a blessed day -Stan

    • Thanks for your apologies and concern for MY mental well being Stan. Everything reported in this blog post is accurate in terms of my experience dealing with both the school and Kalim. I told both the school and Kalim I would do this. I am entitled to tell my story. I am glad you have a faith where you can wash your hands of personal responsibility, that must be nice. However the rest of us live in a world where our actions have consequences. Happy Holidays.

      • Stan L

        why wont you let me post this on your page mrs. Geebee. it is not right to atleast have two opinions for people to choose. if yours is right then it shouldnt be a problem am i right?

        • It’s called moderation Stan, so when people like you copy and paste and submit the same post 10 times, it doesn’t flood the comments section. Your factually incorrect opinion is above.

      • Stan L

        im glad you can believe that and your heart is at peace but don’t try to ruin someones life from what you suspect they did all off. sorry you had to endure those few days of comments and etc i hope that his lifes not ruined by you getting comments on your instas. hint for the future if you dont like people commenting things on your posts go private or do not post undergarment photos. have a happy holiday

        • And here’s a protip for you Stan, if you don’t want your name in a blog post, dont continually send pictures of your genitals to women on the internet, dont setup instagram accounts pretending to be them. Funny that the other victims involved don’t review underwear, they don’t review swimwear and Kalim did the same and worse to them. Guess it doesn’t really matter what I wore.

          • Stan L

            still waiting for proof that All these so called accounts were his. you have an apology yes but if that were me id give you whatever you wanted to, you were trying to ruin someones life when is your really ruined. sorry for the few days of turmoil you suffered. in the apology he said hes sorry for his part. not for all of it. hes a christian kid who made a mistake like every other person on this planet. Only god can judge him and god always forgives so i know this wont affect his opportunities as much as you try to. but yes i do hope people read this post because theyll see him in a few years doing what he wants and being the successful kid i know him to be and theyll say wow he really prospered through all the allegations being said about him, family harassment by all of your followers as well as faculty and locals, as well as depression from this blog, that will be the best part. i dont need to hear anymore ms. Geebee have a blessed holiday and i hope you find it in your heart to do whatever you feel is right once all the hype and attention dies down off you.

          • If Kalim wants to tell his side of the story, or correct the above – or let the school know he and other people were systematically harassing women on the internet, then that is great. I would sleep better at night knowing that my blog helped stop more than one young man engaging in risky and dangerous behaviour and that the girls of Veritas’ were safer.

      • Anita

        Holy mother of wall of text. TL/DR.

        • Chelly

          It looks to be tripled by mistake. The actual content is 1/3 of the above.

          • Anita

            Still too long to comprehend, punctuation is not the work of the devil.

    • Chelly

      I’m not a Christian Stannis the Mannis, but even I don’t think your God forgives unrepentant creeps like Kalim.

    • Vanessa

      Family and faculty are “doing nothing but praying”… ? Why don’t they try to do something useful, like talking to this young man, pointing out that what’s just happened to him should be taken as a serious wake-up call, and trying to encourage some genuine thought about moral values and about his future? Dumping all the responsibility onto God and deciding this kid shouldn’t need to deal with his own actions is the biggest cop-out possible.

      And the right thing for ANY school to do, when one of its students has been accused of sexual harassment and threats, is to investigate the matter, and to advise the complainant that they are doing so. Not to reveal to the (alleged) harasser the full name and contact details of the complainant!

    • Jess Butson

      im fairly certain Jesus doesnt forgive dick pics

    • MLP

      So Kalim is not only posting his genitals to various women he is also dating a minor. Interesting & Scary. Glad to know Stan you think this is OK and we shouldn’t worry at all.

      • Considering the details Stan posted to me (and I didn’t publish) I assume Stan is Kalim or his GF.

    • Laura Holmes

      I’m sorry, I don’t know WHAT form of Christianity you believe in, but apparently you think there are no earthly punishments for consequences. That’s crap. You do the crime you do the time. And this young man has done the crime. Your threats are also grounds for an FBI report in the US and just remember libel is only when its not true. As far as whether or not God will forgive the perpetrator that is only IF he has a truly repentant heart and as of right now, there appear to be a lot of people letting him get away with the consequences because he said he was sorry. That’s not good enough. As far as a threatened excommunication or any church discipline, its been earned. I pray you and the perpetrator both be truly penitent and May God have mercy on your soul. Man is not always so generous.

  • Eugena Wright

    Rachel,

    What an enlightening post. Though I use Social Media platforms this has never happened to me, perhaps this could be because I only have private accounts (or an Instagram with very few followers), but in no way do I think you should have to hold a private account to avoid situations such as this, or be shamed into feeling this way. It is a sad time for everyone involved in situations like this, in particular as the internet yields these behaviours across boarders, without providing official ways to prevent them (longer than the time it takes to generate new accounts) or provide consequences for the perpetrator. Due to this we can only hope that if a perpetrator can be identified then organisations of authority surrounding that person will try to help repair these situations and provide professional outreach to the victimised persons and insure the perpetrator will be held accountable and see actual consequences.

    It is clear in your situation this was not the case, providing you with only so many options as to stopping these actions. It proves you have to go to extremes to get any results when it comes to harassment via the internet.

    I hope these acts do not continue to happen to you, and you can enjoy the use of your platforms over the Christmas period (and from on) without harassment.

  • Anita

    It’s a shame, (understandable, but still a shame) that Stan has automatically jumped to the defense of someone he knows, without having the whole story, and in the process played into the stereotypical view of he’s repented, God has forgiven him, why can’t you?

    I take issue with Stan’s claims that Kalim is a good kid, smart …. No, smart kids, and good kids don’t send unsolicited dick pics to anyone. I’n not sure what being athletic has to do with his morals, but from what I’ve seen of some of the sports stars in media, the two certainly don’t go hand in hand.

    I am so pleased that they are doing nothing but all praying, because prayer has proven to be so useful in conflict resolution in the past. Really the whole sentence was redundant – Stan, you could have just said they were doing nothing, because that’s closer to the truth.

    • I would hazard a guess that Stan, who is calling me a sex offender in the messages I have chosen not to publish (and over on twitter) is actually Kalim’s GF. Her writing style is very similar. I have chosen not to name her because she is also a victim in this situation, and I feel incredibly sorry that she has taken this post as an attack on her – Stan, his behaviour is not a reflection of you, just like it is not a reflection of me. But I understand that you’re angry and I’m sorry this is causing you pain.

      • Jess Butson

        oh man, you are such a bigger person than most. I am in awe of you

  • Hannah A-O

    Rachel – What you’ve done is incredibly brave and calls attention to the very real issues surrounding the objectification of women online. It is so frightening that men continue to hide behind the anonymity of the internet while systematically abusing women. It is even more frightening that once society is confronted with the reality of someone’s actions in this arena, they refuse to respond in any meaningful way. At what point will we recognise that abuse is abuse, whether it happens online, in the street or elsewhere – and that by enabling these individuals to continue with no consequence only serves to validate their behaviours and foster this dangerous culture of sexual harassment? I hope that the school, particularly, comes back to you with some form of recourse for Kalim’s actions – as surely god-fearing Christians must see that this is NOT acceptable! Sending lots of strength & love your way – You do you girl!

  • Nicole

    This is incredible in such a horrific way. Good on you finding out who he is and contacting relevant people. If that was my boyfriend he wouldn’t be for long. His stalking across multiple mediums to message dic* pics and abuse reveals a dedication that is disturbing.
    That this may not be the first incident the school has heard of makes me question the values of any school let alone one that is meant to hold Christian values. It seems the only time this school cares about its roots is so they can cry for forgiveness without ever changing anything about themselves. And this is reflected in Kalims behaviour, wanting forgiveness yet never admitting to any wrongs or changing his own behaviour.

    The more I hear about this school rep the more disturbed I get. You hear about corruption but . . . If they trying to hide and dismiss all this coming from an adult woman imagine if a young minor came forward. It is horrible to even think of it.

  • Ellie Hughes

    My heart goes out to you Rachel. Noone should suffer that degradation. Having recently endured a similar ordeal I feel it’s time for change. The law must be adapted to take into account the latest technology and the crimes perpetrated therein. Be brave and true my friend and ignore those who try to drag you down. Arohanui, Ellie

  • roboid

    Fantastic. Let the scumbag reap what he sews and anyone who supports him or feels sorry for him is just as guilty. I admire your courage and audacity in this far-too-common situation.

  • Kim H

    Thank you so much for sharing your story with the world. Thank you so much for standing up and taking a stand. I am so sorry you have gone through this, its scary how commonly this happens every day to so many women. We need to show these creepy stalker unsolicited penis pic sending perverts that we wont take this shit any more.

  • Jessica

    Absolutely fantastic post, thank you for bringing attention to this. It sickens me that a “family friend” of our harasser dared speak against you as a victim. As if the pervert who harassed you shouldn’t be held accountable for his actions. Stan, you’re as disgusting as Kalim. And your grammar is abhorrent.

  • disqus_sHOBCgZkG6

    It could be that the school is one of these lame, for-profit, unregulated private religious “colleges” that seems be popping up more and more everywhere in the US, especially in the south;

    http://nypost.com/2015/11/29/the-shady-college-football-team-that-gets-paid-to-lose-games/

    The school website says they accredit “home schooled” students…seems likely that it’s a glorified sports program for students that for various reasons haven’t been able to get accepted into legitimate or state regulated schools. The school website is pretty laughable actually so I can’t imagine anyone employed there has any of the necessary tools to deal with something like this;

    http://veritaschristianschool.org/about/why-classical-christian-education/

    The school address searched on Google Maps doesn’t appear to show a “school” in the sense that it is been generally understood in the past;

    https://goo.gl/maps/r1Wzq4DsgdA2

    • BWM

      As a former resident of Lawrence who interacted often with Veritas, I can tell you it’s not a glorified sports program. There is a large Christian, home schooling community in Lawrence, for numerous reasons – philosophical problems with public education, a desire to integrate faith into education, etc. – and Veritas serves that community, as well as its own students. Because the school is entirely private with a relatively small number of families, funding for things like buildings and web design are probably scarce.

      And superior web design skills and sufficient ability to manage disciplinary measures of this magnitude is probably a weak correlation.

      It disturbs me that any young guy would not only harass a woman, especially in such a cowardly way, but also pour so much time and effort into that harassment. As a teacher of young men, this story puts weight on me, and I’m left wondering how I can better model and teach my students to view their peers as people to be loved.

      I am disappointed by how Veritas has handled this situation, especially when I consider the character of the staff (and students) I know. I hope this situation helps Veritas to consider how to better shape their students and know how to enact justice if such a situation ever occurs again.

      • Hi BWM – my comment on web design and technology was very much tongue in cheek. Sometimes it is nicer, easier, more comforting to believe that the people you are dealing with are ignorant of social media, the internet and blogs, and their potential impact on a community, a person, or a school’s reputation, than to believe they are willfully ignoring a serious safety issue. The school didn’t even request copies of the messages I received. They just weren’t interested in dealing with it (and undoubtedly some were sent during school time).

        It is a huge concern that Kalim put so much time into harassing me and other women and the fact that young women from Lawrence are reaching out to me on social media to say he has also harassed them at school and at work has been both validating (hard being alone out here sometimes) and heart breaking.

        Thank you for your comment
        Rachel

        • Jim Bob
          • Wow

          • Jim Bob

            It’s a shame that a school that truly believes in god and his teachings doesn’t feel that they should adhere to God’s rules.

            Romans 13:1-7
            states, “Everyone must submit himself to the governing authorities, for
            there is no authority except that which God has established. The
            authorities that exist have been established by God. Consequently, he
            who rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has
            instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves. For
            rulers hold no terror for those who do right, but for those who do
            wrong. Do you want to be free from fear of the one in authority? Then do
            what is right and he will commend you. For he is God’s servant to do
            you good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword
            for nothing. He is God’s servant, an agent of wrath to bring punishment
            on the wrongdoer. Therefore, it is necessary to submit to the
            authorities, not only because of possible punishment but also because of
            conscience. This is also why you pay taxes, for the authorities are
            God’s servants, who give their full time to governing. Give everyone
            what you owe him: If you owe taxes, pay taxes; if revenue, then revenue;
            if respect, then respect; if honor, then honor.”

          • For some reason, Veritas students appear to be firm in their belief that they can do whatever they like as long as they ask for forgiveness. It makes me wonder what their understanding of responsibility is, or being a citizen is.

          • Jim Bob

            Message to Kalim…. Being a true believer of God, perhaps you
            should submit to God’s teachings. The right thing to do would be to
            turn yourself into the police and allow them to charge you. To admit
            your wrongdoings and submit yourself to be judged by American law. For
            this is truly the path that was intended by God. His subjects must
            abide by the law of the land, and as such allowing Rachael legal
            retribution is truly right.

            Stop hiding behind God. He does not intend you to use his name to clear yours. Gods forgiveness is always at hand, but don’t missunderstand that. He forgives you and offers unconditional love and acceptance. Society, your peers & Rachael may not. Forgiveness may never come. Even so have you even bothered to ask Rachael how she felt? Try to understand her, listen to her about what you did her from her perspective. Maybe then your words of sorry may mean something.

            BTW Rachael… You should send that to him if you wish.

  • Desiree Ramone

    I’ve gone to school with him since kindergarten. He had always been somewhat like this. From it being invading personal space to straight up bullying, and trust me there was a lot of it. He went to Lawrence public schools until recently. This kid made my life hell for nearly a decade and a half. It warms my heart to see him finally called out for his bs. I hope he loses his scholarship and is expelled from veritas. As it is, to my knowledge, a private school. I’m so sorry you have had to be a victim of his as well, but thank you for taking action. Though sexual harassment of that level its hard to ignore.

  • Tee

    So happy you refuse to lose your voice in this! As a relative of Kalim I am so so sorry, and so so disappointed in him and his actions. Your post has made it to our hometown and you have people on your side. Don’t quit fighting you beautiful soul!

  • Anonymous

    Kalim runs the Varitas twitter account rumour has it

  • Jamal

    Bitch u are dumb

    • Thanks for that Jamal (liljaysol785@gmail.com) this is the exact issue and attitude that is a problem.

  • Charles Hopkins III

    I am just now reading this…and I’m sorry for all the harassment you had to endure. His actions is not a reflection of ALL men and furthermore of Lawrence men, but I’m not naive, and having sisters of my own kinda had a small sense of what women around the world go through everyday. As a friend,nephew, grandson, brother, and some day a future father of women I do not CONDONE his actions and will not contribute in any way contribute to the harsh realities of rape culture. Whatever Kalim’s intentions were, I hope he will come to realize that actions has consequences and whatever he puts on the internet lives on to eternity. I know him, but I do not support the decision the school made to not act. I will do what I can to make sure that women around the world, will start to see a change in men, that makes women feel safe, secure, and ultimately free to be who they are. Hope this experience wasn’t too damaging to your livelihood.

    • Alicia

      I suppose I should say I’m sorry you have had to go through this but frankly I’m not. You are the perfect person for this to have happened to. You know more than probably most of us do about computers. If someone sent me those disgusting messages, I wouldn’t know how to trail them. You are also an excellent writer. Whoever coined the phrase, “The pen is mightier than the sword” must have had your unborn spirit in mind. You also have a moral compass and tremendous tenacity. What you have done not only benefits you, but all of us. You are inadvertently showing us women to be vocal and fight back. From one woman to another, I am proud of your work in this matter.

      • I took a screenshot of this to make sure I remember what kind words a complete stranger said to me, when another complete stranger is tearing me to shreds, thank you so much x

  • Cat Astrophy

    Hit CTRL+F and not one mention of the word “troll”. Rachel doesn’t seem to understand that a lot of people bullshit you just to get a rise out of you but in person wouldn’t even think of doing a fraction of the things they come up with.

    • There is a clear difference between a troll and someone who goes out of their way over weeks (and multiple social media platforms) to belittle and harass women on the internet. It’s so obviously different it doesn’t even warrant further discussion. Your attitude is a problem.

      • Eleven

        You got trolled hard and ate that bait like it was your last meal. By constantly banning people you don’t agree with all you are doing is fanning the flames. Good job feeding your enemy.

  • Retta H-b

    Hi I live in Lawrence and am spreading the story around.

  • Frank Shopen

    So many of us are with you. This is so well done too. I hope you get satisfaction in the end, but in the meantime you have been a beacon and example of what righteous anger is supposed to look like. We need to change our behavior, and the only way is for brave, intelligent woman to call it out. Thanks for my daughters and their children for what you have done and are doing.. Love the irony of it being Veritas, can’t believe (actually I should expect it perhaps) they’re trying to shove it under the rug.

  • Frank Shopen

    commenting is disabled on the game.

  • William Taaffe

    Wow. Kalim really made a bad error of judgement going after you with his overtly sexual overtones, certainly objectifying you. You have great points of course and are completely correct in your brilliantly written blog. Maybe though, without really knowing Kalim, you might find that his actions are borne of consequences from his upbringing and influences. The mistake he made, that many people make, was not being considerate (or more to the point being blase) to your own feelings.

    As a revenge story though, you went all out on him. And even though I do feel a little bit for Kalim (sorry all the girls on here!) I applaud you for it, none the less.

    • I wouldn’t go as far as calling it a revenge story. It was simply an account of an interaction which is particularly poignant for women who use the internet and specifically plus size women who are frequently over sexualised. This is a plus size blog, my readers are plus size women, this story was more for them than for seeking justice for myself or revenge against Kalim.

      I agree that Kalim is a product of his environment, which is why it was really important for me to call the school, as restorative justice is something I truly believe in. Unfortunately the school wasn’t interested in addressing the issue, and Kalim will not get the help he requires. And that is truly a shame.

  • Audrey

    I know people who work at Christian schools and who can contact ACSI (https://www.acsi.org/), who might be very interested to know that Veritas is supporting and abetting a sexual predator.

  • Audrey

    Actually, this is the regional director for ACSI in Veritas’s region: https://www.acsi.org/region/mid-america . If you want to take your story higher up the food chain, this is who to contact. If the association gets involved, that school could lose its accreditation for not adhering to moral standards.

  • Loulou

    I must say I was shocked and deeply disturbed when I read your article yesterday. In fact, I still am. I am sorry this has happened to you Rachel, and to any other women as well. I am a Christian. I am connected to people at Veritas Christian School. I know, they know and truly believe what Kalim did is absolutly wrong. I also know they are trying to figure out what to do about him and how to handle the situation with him as a student. What I understand at the moment is that Kalim is suspended from basketball and from the school. The school is taking action. Maybe not as quickly as we would like, but I do at this point, think the school is attempting to do the right thing. Rachel, I hope when all this is said and done that you feel feel justice has been had. You are very brave and bold for bringing Kalim’s actions to light.

    • Hey Loulou – thanks for your message.
      I have been told by parents before that Kalim has been suspended/is under investigation but he then went onto play basketball immediately, so I take this kind of information with a grain of salt.

      The school has my contact information and has since December 16th, and yet has not reached out to inform me as the victim what actions they are taking to address my concerns. The last (and only ) conversation I had with Veritas was with Micah Stegall who told me the school was taking my complaint no further.

      I appreciate your update but I can’t help but feel that if the school was interested in doing the right thing they would have contacted me.

      • Loulou

        Not excusing their lack of response at all, but I do know there was a game tonight and he was not in attendance. I really hope there is something legally you can pursue.

        • That gives me some hope, thank you for your support and update x

  • Devon Pakko-Lee

    Having gone to a christian high school, I’ll tell you exactly what *should* have happened. Since all students at most christian schools are required to sign a behavioral contract, he should have been subject to the penalties laid out in that contract. Including removal from all extracurricular activities, specifically basketball, suspension, and up to expulsion. Given the sheer depth of his dedication to victimizing not only you, but apparently multiple other women, should have been an automatic expulsion for serious breach of contract. If the guy you talked to was a police officer, he KNEW this student committed a crime, not just made a mistake. However, christian schools have to draw in students. They need the tuition money flowing in. Drawing the devout religious families isn’t enough. They need successful sports teams to draw in more kids. My high school was a basketball school as well. We had been in trouble in our league for recruitment processes, and a few students were barred from playing. Our school was so dedicated to basketball, we had an augmented class schedule when we went to state finals every year, so we could all travel an hour to watch our team play. It’s insane.

    On the upside for you guys, this article is the first thing that pops up on google when you search his name. Then all his NCAA recruitment pages, and then your tumblr post about it at the very bottom. Let me tell you, colleges DO google their potential students. With all the focus on sexual harassment on campus these days, the LAST thing colleges want is to invite a student to play basketball for them who already has a pattern of victimizing women. Keep posting about him. Keep tagging him in individual posts. Make sure your story is heard and that anyone who considers him for their college or university has the ability to find the truth about his past. I’m so sorry you have endured this. I’m sorry you aren’t finding help where you need it. I feel awful for every woman who deals with this kind of abuse every day online. I hope you are able to find some resolution to this. I hope he has consequences for his actions. Good for you, standing up for yourself!

  • Marcus

    Outstanding work. Hope others will do the same. Forwarding this to my sister.

  • JP

    As of last week, he was still playing basketball for Veritas… and they have disabled the comments on their links for the games. It’s a shame… as someone living in Kansas that people here do things like this.

  • Jane Doe

    I love the fact that they have disabled comments on that news article.

    They obviously know that what has happened is wrong, and that their response is wrong.
    I bet they are hoping that you will just drop it, like that would happen.

    Good on you for standing up for yourself and the thousands, if not millions, of other women who get sexually harassed online every day! You have my full support.

  • Wow… this is incredible. I feel so proud of you for doing something about this Rachel. You are a strong woman <3

  • RussinSactown

    Being a troll hasn’t changed since the old BBS days when you tied up a phone line. Give someone a keyboard and a screen and they are suddenly powerful. I’m sorry you have to deal with that nonsense.

  • officerlumpy

    Lol they disabled the comments on that game after reading this.

  • Jim Bob

    FYI – http://www.veritasnj.org/resources/Discipline%20Policy%20and%20Procedure%20Manual.pdf

    Suspension and Expulsion
    Suspension is the responsibility of the Administrator and may be used for serious volations or repeated
    violations of school rules. Examples of such conduct include cheating, smok
    ing, drinking, illegal use of
    drugs or the possession of drugs, sexually immoral behavior, etc. Students involved in the use,
    possession, or selling of drugs or alcohol may be turned over to the proper authorities. A student may be
    suspended for a period
    of one to ten days at the discretion of the Administrator.
    The following violations of the Code of Conduct will result in an immediate suspension fom school,
    pending a more thorough investigation of the matter, and may result in withdrawal or expulsion:

    The use and/or possession of tobacco, alcoholic beverages, or illegal drugs, and the abuse of
    prescription medication

    Immoral sexual conduct (which includes, but is not limited to, extramarital sex, adultery, and
    homosexuality)

    Obtaining or facilitating a
    n abortion

    Possession of weapons and/or dangerous items

    Repeated dishonesty

    Flagrant disrespect and disobedience

    Leaving campus without permission

    The possession and/or
    distribution of pornographic materials and information

    Harassment in any form, both phy
    sical and/or sexual in nature

    Vandalism

    Continued willfull disobedience, misconduct, disrespect

    Any action taken by a student that disturbs the privacy or invades the private property of a
    teacher or Administrator at his or her home, or that affects his or
    her private property at school
    During the suspension period the student bust keep up with hlis or her school work. All assignments or
    tests missed during the period of suspension must be completed
    Students may not practice or participate in athletic
    events for the duration of the suspension, nor may
    they be involved in after school activities during that time. In addition, mstudents may not attend school activities on the day(s) of suspension.

    Seems he should have been suspended immediately based on at least 2 or 3 of those rules…

    • Some of that list is sickening – however I wish I’d spotted it earlier.

  • Erika

    I am a college student in Lawrence and this is horrifying to me but not surprising. The Lawrence police do not care about rape. A passed out woman was raped in the hallway of my apartment complex which I witnessed and called the police. No charges filed.

  • Dave S.

    Hi Rachel,

    I’m sorry you’re going through this. Well, I’m sorry that any woman goes through this for that matter. I know what it’s like to stick your neck out there, drawing attention to a wrong. When you go public with something like this, you stir up every basement dweller that has an opinion. Not only do you push for authorities to do something, now you feel like you’re answering to the court of public opinion.

    I would like to remind your readers that there is due process. This young man is presumed innocent until proven guilty. Hopefully, the evidence is there to connect the dots back to the guilty person, whoever that may be. So, rather than seek out this minor with mob justice, I would encourage everyone to pressure the authorities to thoroughly investigate the situation and provide Rachel with a satisfactory outcome.

    • Hi Dave – I agree with you wholeheartedly. I hope to write a follow up post today stating that.

      I am finally speaking to the Lawrence PD today, who have confirmed they can in fact take my complaint.

      Which is due largely to the people of Lawrence who have stood up in support of me and I believe made this more of a priority for the organisations involved.

  • Loulou

    FYI
    Kalim has been expelled.

  • H. Cochran

    I live just blocks from this school. I am not surprised by the reaction of the school admins, giving out your info and minimizing your experience.

    Please contact the Douglas County Sheriff’s Department and the Kansas Bureau of Investigation, since Mr. Stedman is connected with Lawrence PD. What a shame.

    Stay strong. You are standing up to this kid, his family, the school and the whole attitude of “no big deal.”

  • Mfg

    *its

  • Jeff

    Micah Stegall has a record: Battery and Drunk driving: http://www2.ljworld.com/news/1999/nov/12/police_officer_pleads_to/?print

  • Lauren

    I live in Lawrence and I think you should start a go find me account so you can come to the US to prosecute. I’d gladly donate. I don’t want this creep free in my hometown.

  • Matt

    “Wang.” LOL. I know I’m not supposed to be laughing at a time like this, but I haven’t heard that in a long time.

    Also “gauntlet of dick.” LOL